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React or Respond?

Do you react or respond to life, to the things that happen around you?

Recently I was listening to some Zig Zigler tapes.  Great insight about a number of things.

One thing he spoke about was the difference between reacting or responding to what happens to us.  Thought-provoking!

The example he provided to distinguish the difference involved medicine we may be prescribed when we are ill.  If we can tolerate the medicine and it heals us, we have responded well to it.  If we cannot tolerate the medicine and it makes us feel worse, we have reacted to it.

He also gave the example of a typical driving situation, now known as ‘road-rage’.  Perhaps you’ve had this happen to you…  Someone cuts you off on the road.  It just sets you off for the rest of the day.  You’ve reacted to it!  If you are like most people in this situation, you remain in your car, take a few moments to have a monolog about how awful the person is (as well as some choice names for him) and it creates a not-so-great rest of the day for you.  Does the other person even know how you are feeling?  Of course not!

What if, when something like this happens, you would instead think about what may be going on with him.  You could create a scenario that would allow you to have empathy for the person, since he may really be having a bad day.  By doing this you are responding to the situation.  You then go on about your day without giving the situation any more thought.

Which gives us the most control?  I think you would agree that our response to something gives us more control that our reaction to it.

How do you deal with these types of situations?  Do you react or respond?

How Do You React?

How do you react to what happens to you on a daily basis?  What about something that totally throws you off your stride?

Some people are not sure what is meant by personal development, so I thought I’d put it in real terms.  We are all going through life on our own terms… We live our own life, deal with our own stuff and personally feel the results of what happens to us.

So how do we react to what happens to us?  This is the time when we see the results of being ‘personally developed’.  What about when bad stuff happens?  When something comes up in our life that throws off our rhythm of life!

Are you able to keep your head initially when faced with an issue/problem/disaster?  Are you able to figure out and decide what to do to start to deal with this multi-faceted issue?  Are you able to handle the challenges you are facing and still be civil to those around you?  An important thing to be able to do!

Recently we were faced with a water problem in our home, which precipitated a call to a disaster restoration company.  They worked on the initial problem in our finished lower level for seven hours last weekend and left a bunch of heavy duty fans, water extraction units  and dehumidifiers all running simultaneously… huge ‘white noise’!

For me, this is the true test of how we handle life!  How do we really handle these life challenges and proceed to get us to the other side of the issue?  For me, this is the concept of putting into practice, all of the personal development we’ve acquired from reading books, listening to CD’s, etc.

In a dialog I had with the key guy in our home, on the job for us last weekend, the subject came up about dealing with the loss of stuff that represents our history.  These guys deal with this all the time!  He told me that I was handling it pretty well, based on what had happened and how others have dealt with it.

I felt good about hearing that.  At least there was some positive to all the negative stuff around this issue.

So, how do you react to what happens to you?  What would you do about this?  How would you handle all of it?