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Button Pushers

How do you deal with someone who pushes your buttons?  You know, can make you do a 180 on the great mood you may have been experiencing at any given time.  How do you react?  How do you respond?

Wouldn’t you agree that in our lives, we meet people of all types.  Some like/love us no matter what we do or say.  And some do not like us no matter what we do or say.  And some just know how to push our buttons and make us miserable!!!

So, I ask again…  How do you deal with that person, or those people?

Have you ever listened to someone describe in very emotional terms a blow-by-blow account of a situation that has made this person extremely emotional and somewhat distraught.  At a loss to know what to do to handle it, and therefore tells everyone they come into contact with.

Have you ever noticed that when you are listening to someone’s tale of woe that it may not have the same impact on you.  You may hear a recount of a long, involved story and as you are listening, you are dissecting it and realizing that you think it’s not quite as severe as the victim has indicated.

Is it not so bad because it’s not our challenge, personally.  Perhaps we should keep in mind that when we have something like this happen to us, we should take a step back and decide just how really awful it is…  Or maybe not awful at all!

Just a thought…  The more we talk about bad stuff, the longer the bad stuff lingers…  Hmmm!!!

So who can push your buttons?  And why do you let them?

More Slight Edge Philosophy…

This a post I created a while ago and thought it was worth re-posting.  Interesting concepts and worth thinking about on many levels.

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Our friend, Jeff Olson, has come out with a new edition of The Slight Edge.  It has a new cover design and indicates it is a revised edition.  I have decided to read it cover to cover to see how it is revised.

When the first edition came out, I read it, of course.  Then a year ago or so, I read it again.  If you are in the habit of reading great books like this, I believe you would understand that I picked up new information just by reading the book again.

Perhaps if it has happened to you, you are aware that we are not the same person today as we were at any given time in the past.  Reading personal development type books must have some kind of positive effect on us.  And each step of the way, we will understand something according to who we are at the time.

The slight edge philosophy is so simplistic and so basic.  That’s the irony of it all.  Whether or not people have ever heard the phrase or have ever heard of the book, it doesn’t matter.  The slight edge is always working.  It’s up to us as to whether it is working for or against us.

The slight edge is made up of simple things we do every day.  According to Jeff Olson, it’s the things you do every day, the things that don’t look like they matter.  But they do matter.  They not only make a difference, they make all the difference.  How do you eat?  What are you learning?  How do you handle your relationships?  How about your finances?

Think of all the ways the slight edge can be applied in our lives:  health, weight, education, relationships, finances, and many, many more.

That being said, how has the slight edge worked in your life?  Has it worked for you or against you?

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What are your thoughts on this?  Would love to hear from you.

Where Are You Now?

This blog was written and posted over eighteen months ago.  I thought you might find it relevant to what might be going on for you today.  Would enjoy your feedback on it.

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Where are you in your life?  Is it where you want to be?  Is it where you thought you’d be at this point?

Have you ever wondered where all the time went?  How have all these days, weeks, months and years gone so quickly.  Recently I was remembering a business scenario from last year.  It seemed like it was a month or two ago, but then I realized it was last August.  How have nine months gone by when it doesn’t seem possible?

Are you still creating goals and benchmarks for what you want to do and where you want to go and what you want to become?  Hopefully you are.  Even if you have everything you want and need, I believe it is healthy for us to continue to strive to create more and grow more.

On a CD series I have from Bob Proctor, I heard him describe this concept relative to how an oak tree continues to grow.  “Does an oak tree decide that it’s grown enough?”

To continue in life and be productive is the most important thing.  How many of us have watched people we know who seem to just stop striving?  And what happens next?  They seem to stop thriving.

On a CD series I have heard by Jim Rohn, he said, “Just do it all, attend all the events that you can, talk to all the friends you can, go to all the places you can and keep becoming the person you can.”

I think there’s something to these nuggets of advice from two of the most prolific personal development authors I’ve known of.  Too bad Jim Rohn passed away last year, but what gems he left as his legacy.  If you want to know more about Jim Rohn, there is a direct link to his website on the lower right of this page.

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Jim Rohn passed away two years ago this December.  We still miss him and his profound wisdom.

Dealing With Stuff

How do you deal with the stuff that happens to us all, at any given moment.

You know.  You’re in a conversation with someone and something is mentioned that creates an uncomfortable feeling in you that you can’t immediately shake.

What do you do?  How do you react?  Are you able to think logically and decide how to handle the situation without it bugging you and disturbing your well-being?  I’m talking specifically about something that affects you alone, not the person to whom you are having the conversation.

Recently, I had such a situation occur.  Without going into great detail, the information I was getting from this person affected me in a way that surprised me.  I became upset to the extent that it really bothered me.

What did I do?  I knew I needed to talk to the person who could give me information that I needed to answer my questions and allow me to make a good decision about how to proceed.

Well, after a short time, I composed myself, made that phone call, and proceeded to put the whole thing out of my mind, until I could actually talk to the person.

I wasn’t put off by the voice mail phone tag that ensued a couple of times.  I was able to decide that when the conversation takes place with the other person, at that point, I will decide what to do next.

It’s so important to have our emotions under control.  Take control in those situations and make sure you do the best thing for you and those around you… Be in control of your mind, self-talk and emotions!  That’s personal development!

What do you do in this type of situation?  We all encounter them!  Would love to hear from you.

What Is Personal Development

In Googling some topics for this personal development post, I came across a number of YouTube videos of very popular people in the field of personal development.  Most of these people are names we all recognize if we have ever read or researched ‘personal development’.  I’ve decided not to show any videos with this post.

Perhaps many people who don’t really understand what the essence of personal development is, believe it is a bit of quackery or a bit of hype by people who are looking to sell their products to unsuspecting prospects.

A couple of things come to my mind.  Some of the best presenters in this realm, have honed their presentation skills to the point of maybe seeming to be slick.  Obviously they have practiced to create a superb presentation to help the audience absorb and remember their information.

If someone is a skeptic they may see only that these people are looking to sell their materials.  Actually, there are many fine materials (books, audio tapes and now CDs) that I personally have bought and have benefited from reading and hearing over and over again.  Very rarely have I bought something that I felt I had given little value.

To the people who scorn speakers for selling their products, perhaps it’s up to each of us to determine what we need to read and listen to, and what will benefit us.  Some people who dislike or don’t understand personal development, are the very people who could probably benefit from listening to and reading some.

What are your thoughts on this topic?

When Will Your Ship Come In?

We’ve all heard the expression, ‘Some day, when my ship comes in, I’ll be______ or I’ll do_______ or I’ll have_________’… (fill in the blanks).

But is there such a thing as some day?  Recently I was reading the new version of The Slight Edge, by Jeff Olson, Chapter 5 about the myth of the quantum leap.

Perhaps all of us at one time or other have felt like eventually things will miraculously change and we will go from being mundane to lottery winner.  We will take a quantum leap in our circumstances and everything will be totally perfect.

Really though, how can some day exist as a real thing in time?  Isn’t today the tomorrow we talked about yesterday?  (When I was a kid, I remember that phrase on a plaque in a relative’s home.)  So true.  There is no some day.  There’s only today.  This is all we have to work with.  We get to decide today, right now, what to do to create the some day we want.

There is no quantum leap to change our circumstances.  Our future depends on the small things we do on a daily basis to create it.  Either good or bad.  Our future will be what we have created by doing what we do each moment and hour of each day.

We get to decide.  So, when will your ship come in?  And will it come in at all?  Or are you on your ship steering it and deciding where you want it to go?

What are your thoughts on this topic?  Love to hear from you.

Live Life To The Fullest

The following video is from this interesting site that contains lots of motivational quotes put to music.  This one is from Dale Carnegie.

If you have ever taken a Dale Carnegie course, your life has probably been impacted to some extent.  Personally, in 1984 I took The Dale Carnegie Course and it changed my life forever.  You might wonder how exactly did it change my life?  It gave me the confidence to speak to groups of people, which over the years has proven invaluable.

In this video, there is some wisdom expressed about living our lives now, to the fullest extent.

We always need to pay attention to this concept.  What are we waiting for?  We need to enjoy every experience that comes our way.

Adversity…Again

Recently I was talking with someone whom I happened to run into and hadn’t seen in a few years.  While talking to her, it struck me that she has had lots of adversity in her life.  She doesn’t seem to deal with it well, and I believe there are lots of people like this who might benefit from knowing about such things as this blog.  This is a post I wrote/quoted/referenced last fall.  It’s still relevant!

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The following blog post/article is written by Chuck Gallozzi.  I found it most interesting and thought perhaps you would too.

Adversity: Here to Break Us or Make Us?

Pain, suffering, stress, and other difficulties are the admission tickets to the game of life. But, at times, we cannot help suspecting that life would be much more pleasant without the hassles. Is that what you think? Before answering, ponder the following. In a world without hurdles, there are no champions; without suffering, there are no saints; without battles, there are no victories; without rain, no rainbows. Doesnt it appear that a world that includes pain is more rewarding than one that doesnt? Isnt heat necessary to produce gold, pressure and polishing necessary to produce diamonds, and adversity necessary to produce character?

Heres how Henry Ford expressed the same sentiment: Life is a series of experiences, each one of which makes us bigger, even though sometimes it is hard to realize this. For the world was built to develop character, and we must learn that the setbacks and grieves which we endure help us in our marching onward.

To read the entire article click here.

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How do you handle adversity?  How do you help others handle their adversity?

How Do You React?

How do you react to what happens to you on a daily basis?  What about something that totally throws you off your stride?

Some people are not sure what is meant by personal development, so I thought I’d put it in real terms.  We are all going through life on our own terms… We live our own life, deal with our own stuff and personally feel the results of what happens to us.

So how do we react to what happens to us?  This is the time when we see the results of being ‘personally developed’.  What about when bad stuff happens?  When something comes up in our life that throws off our rhythm of life!

Are you able to keep your head initially when faced with an issue/problem/disaster?  Are you able to figure out and decide what to do to start to deal with this multi-faceted issue?  Are you able to handle the challenges you are facing and still be civil to those around you?  An important thing to be able to do!

Recently we were faced with a water problem in our home, which precipitated a call to a disaster restoration company.  They worked on the initial problem in our finished lower level for seven hours last weekend and left a bunch of heavy duty fans, water extraction units  and dehumidifiers all running simultaneously… huge ‘white noise’!

For me, this is the true test of how we handle life!  How do we really handle these life challenges and proceed to get us to the other side of the issue?  For me, this is the concept of putting into practice, all of the personal development we’ve acquired from reading books, listening to CD’s, etc.

In a dialog I had with the key guy in our home, on the job for us last weekend, the subject came up about dealing with the loss of stuff that represents our history.  These guys deal with this all the time!  He told me that I was handling it pretty well, based on what had happened and how others have dealt with it.

I felt good about hearing that.  At least there was some positive to all the negative stuff around this issue.

So, how do you react to what happens to you?  What would you do about this?  How would you handle all of it?

How Important Is Gratitude?

Last year I posted this piece on Gratitude.  After reading it over, it’s amusing to see the relevance to the end of the NCAA Basketball season.  I still feel it may resonate with you now…

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In the past few years of my personal development reading, I have read lots of stuff about gratitude.  All of the writers and speakers I know about on the topic of personal development actually stress that gratitude is imperative for receiving abundance in your life.

Gratitude:  a feeling of thankfulness and appreciation.  This is quite a simple definition of a really important concept.  But it’s also quite a simple thing to practice everyday.  It’s a wonderful way to start each day, and one that just takes a conscious thought of doing it.

What do you have in your life that you are really happy about?  What and who are you really thankful for that you have around you right now.  Recently I heard the concept that we need to be really grateful for what we have before we can get more of what we want.

Some of you may have challenges right now that may be so difficult that you would think you couldn’t even start to be grateful for much of anything.  But perhaps you could search deep down for something to be grateful for, no matter how small.  Then concentrate on that for a few minutes, a few times a day and you may see a shift in how you start to think of the challenges you are dealing with now.

We all have numerous thoughts and self-talk going on constantly in our mind, sometimes without realizing what we are really thinking and chattering about.  Become conscious of what you think about.  Our thoughts are powerful.

Gratitude is a wonderful thing to remember and think about on a regular basis.  What are you grateful for now?  The beautiful weather?  The MSU Spartans playing in the Final Four?  Bet that’s on Tom Izzo’s list!  (Just a little Michigan humor at the end of this serious stuff!)