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How Do You Forge Your Character?

The following passage is from Jim Rohn’s book as referenced below.  I thought this was perfect for Thursday’s personal development blog.

Personal success is built on the foundation of character, and character is the result of hundreds and hundreds of choices you may make that gradually turn who you are at any given moment into who you want to be. If that decision-making process is not present, you’ll still be somebody—you’ll still be alive—but you may have a personality rather than a character, and to me that’s something very different.

Character isn’t something you were born with and can’t change, like your fingerprints. It’s something you must take responsibility for forming. You build character by how you respond to what happens in your life, whether it’s winning every game, losing every game, getting rich or dealing with hard times.

You build character from certain qualities that you must create and diligently nurture within yourself, just like you would plant and water a seed or gather wood to build a campfire. You’ve got to look for those things in your heart and in your gut. You’ve got to chisel away in order to find them, just like chiseling away rock to create the sculpture that previously existed only in the imagination.

But the really amazing thing about character is that, if you’re sincerely committed to making yourself into the person you want to be, you’ll not only create those qualities, you’ll strengthen them and re-create them in abundance, even as you’re drawing on them every day of your life. That’s why building your character is vital to becoming all you can be.

The article above is excerpted from Jim Rohn’s influential book, Leading an Inspired Life.  In the book, Jim outlines the foundational philosophies that anyone can learn to achieve success in both business and in life.  For more information about Jim Rohn and his materials, click the button Interesting Information, on the lower right of this page.

Character

Character is an interesting word, since there is so much to what it means.  There are numerous definitions of this word, but for this writing, I’m thinking in terms of the personal development definition.

A person’s character would then be made up of a number of traits.   Trustworthiness, respect, responsibility, fairness, caring, honesty, courage and integrity would be the main traits that could be thought of as comprising the character of a person.

Big list of traits, so let’s pick two and talk about them a bit.  The word integrity is a word that I think of when thinking of certain people of character that I know, and the phrase lack of integrity comes to mind when I think of certain other people I know.  Perhaps, you can envision people in your life who would fit one or the other of these.

Have you ever known someone who talks about himself or herself as having integrity, and you truly believe they can’t know the definition of the word, since you feel they lack it?

Wouldn’t you want to be thought of as a person of integrity?  Not that you really care what others think of you, but just from the aspect of who you are, don’t you want to have integrity?  That to me is probably the biggest component of character and a really important thing.  With our integrity as a guide we can make decisions both big and small, as they come up and feel good about them.

Respect would be the other biggie when it comes to a person with character.  Respect of and for things and people.  How does a person think of others?  Ahh!  Golden Rule!  That just came to my mind, since anyone who can act towards and respect others as she would want others to act toward and respect her, certainly is a person of character.

So, who do you think of when you think of someone with character, someone who has integrity and is respectful?  How about yourself?

What is Character?

Character is an interesting word, since there is so much to what it means.  There are numerous definitions of this word, but for this writing, I’m thinking in terms of the personal development definition.

A person’s character would then be made up of a number of traits.   Trustworthiness, respect, responsibility, fairness, caring, honesty, courage and integrity would be the main traits that could be thought of as comprising the character of a person.

Big list of traits, so let’s pick two and talk about them a bit.  The word integrity is a word that I think of when thinking of certain people of character that I know, and the phrase lack of integrity comes to mind when I think of certain other people I know.  Perhaps, you can envision people in your life who would fit one or the other of these.

Have you ever known someone who talks about himself or herself as having integrity, and you truly believe they can’t know the definition of the word, since you feel they lack it?

Wouldn’t you want to be thought of as a person of integrity?  Not that you really care what others think of you, but just from the aspect of who you are, don’t you want to have integrity?  That to me is probably the biggest component of character and a really important thing.  With our integrity as a guide we can make decisions both big and small, as they come up and feel good about them.

Respect would be the other biggie when it comes to a person with character.  Respect of and for things and people.  How does a person think of others?  Ahh!  Golden Rule!  That just came to my mind, since anyone who can act towards and respect others as she would want others to act toward and respect her, certainly is a person of character.

So, who do you think of when you think of someone with character, someone who has integrity and is respectful?  How about yourself?

How is Your Character?

In a previous post, I referenced a segment from a book by Jim Rohn about forging character.

By now, we’ve probably all read and heard the concept that it’s not what happens to us in our life, but how we choose to deal with what happens to us in our life.  I find that a fascinating concept and one that I had heard many years ago and came to absorb.

We all have good stuff and bad stuff happen to us, whether it’s the result of a choice we made along the way or whether we feel totally helpless about circumstances around us that are now affecting us.  How have you dealt with really bad events in your life?

On the other hand, think of times when you have felt such joy because your life was humming along to perfection.  What a great feeling!

The crazy thing is that we all have experienced good and bad.  And are these words not relative terms?  What is good?  What is bad?  For any given circumstance that has happened to us, we have assigned those labels, perhaps.

What if you have some experience or life event happen and you could step back and take a less emotional look at it.  What is the worst outcome that could happen?  Instead of feeling about it and dealing with it in your normal emotional way, how could you think of it more objectively?  How would you look at it if the same thing were happening to someone you didn’t know very well?  What would you suggest to that person as a way to handle or feel about the event?

Our character is created and we become who we become by how we react to things and situations that happen to us, both good and bad.  Most would think of the negative side of this concept, since when we have negative events happen, often we become very introspective.  But what if you won the lottery?  We’ve all heard the stories of people who have won the lottery and whittle away the money until they have nothing left.  What does that say about their character?

How is your character?  What do you want your character to be?