Category Archives: Thoughts and Musings

Thoughts about success and having success after 60.

Project: Forgive

Project:  Forgive, as you might have figured out, is about forgiveness.  On a huge scale.  Are  you aware of it?  Have you heard of it?

This was inspired by a tragic accident in 2005, in which a West Bloomfield, Michigan jeweler lost his wife and two sons due to a drunk driver.  How would you live after that?  How could you continue to go to sleep each night and wake up in the morning?

This video was released a few months ago by Shawne Duperon, a local Michigan business coach.  In an ironic twist she knew Gary Wienstein and his family and she also personally knew Tom Wellinger, the man who was driving drunk and killed them.  It is because of this, that she has created this video and movement.

This is about five minutes long, which is a bit longer than most videos I post, but this is something you may want to check out.  At the end, there is a request for anyone to send in their own story of forgiveness for the larger project Shawne is creating.  There is also a request for funds to be donated.  Know that I am not necessarily endorsing this project, only giving you information.  The request for donations is part of the video.

Perhaps you would like to read the Detroit Free Press article from a few months ago for the full story.

How do you feel about forgiveness?  Can you forgive someone who has wronged you in some way?  Back at the end of December I wrote a couple of posts about forgiveness, unrelated to this story.  I believe in it strongly.  That being said, I’ve never had to deal with it to this extent.

Gratitude

Here is a video on gratitude.  This topic can fall under so many categories.  Here, it is about expressing our thanks to someone for a deed or deeds that they have done for us.

I thought this was fitting today, since yesterday was the 4th of July and part of this shows people being grateful for what soldiers do everyday for us, to keep us safe.

This video was made by The Gratitude Campaign.  It’s been around for a while.  Still great!

What and who are you grateful for?

Independence Day

The following is taken from this website I came upon as I was Googling information about Independence Day.  I thought this would be a good refresher for people who have not thought about this history aspect of the holiday in quite a while.

 

Background

In 1775, people in New England began fighting the British for their independence. On July 2, 1776, the Congress secretly voted for independence from Great Britain. The Declaration of Independence was first published two days later on July 4, 1776. The first public reading of the Declaration of Independence was on July 8, 1776. Delegates began to sign the Declaration of Independence on August 2, 1776. In 1870, Independence Day was made an unpaid holiday for federal employees. In 1941, it became a paid holiday for them.

The first description of how Independence Day would be celebrated was in a letter from John Adams to his wife Abigail on July 3, 1776. He described “pomp and parade, with shows, games, sports, guns, bells, bonfires, and illuminations” throughout the United States. However, the term “Independence Day” was not used until 1791.

Interestingly, Thomas Jefferson and John Adams, both signers of the Declaration of Independence and presidents of the United States, died on July 4, 1826 – exactly 50 years after the adoption of the declaration. It is also important to note that Native Americans lived in the country and each tribe had its own nation and government prior to the European settlers.

 

 

Whereas Memorial Day and Veteran’s Day are about the more recent military who died fighting for our freedom, this one obviously goes way back and perhaps we don’t associate it with our military, since it was in the beginning of our country.  I’m sure you’ve seen the movies of how things were then.  They were a rag-tag bunch, not the organized military operations we have today.

The concept is quite similar:  There were those people willing to fight for what they believed in, our freedom.  Thanks to all of our military, from the beginning to right now.  Thank you for what you have done or are currently doing for us.

How are you going to spend your 4th of July?

 

LiveStrong

In perusing the Internet recently, I came across this website and wanted to share it with our readers.  Initially when you see the cover page, there is a tab for Man and a tab for Woman.  There is a lot of information on this site about a number of different topics.  Thought you might find it worth checking out.

As I checked out the LiveStrong website, I noticed it is affiliated with the Lance Armstrong Foundation.  In spite of the fact that I have recently heard the headlines about Lance Armstrong’s suspected steroid use, I decided to post this anyway.  There is a lot of useful information here and I believe this blog is written by a number of people who may not even know Lance Armstrong.

One thing I noticed when I scrolled down and saw the experts both on the men’s page and the women’s page, is that these people are not seemingly a cross-section of demographics.  I have a difficult time figuring someone’s age, but I know they are no where near  60 years old.

Now, why would I go ahead and suggest that you read this information?  Remember the books I’ve mentioned numerous times before… Younger Next Year and Younger Next Year for Women, by Dr. Henry Lodge and Chris Crowley?  Well, these experts are writing about things we need to get started on now, if you haven’t already.

Would you agree that a good goal for your life is to live young a long time.  It’s the food we eat the the way we move our bodies that counts.  O.K.  It’s diet and exercise!  (I didn’t say that in the previous phrase, because it’s so mundane and over-used.)  I think you know what I mean.

How are you keeping or achieving the good health you want?  Are you interested in living young a long time?

ShareCare

In the interest of informing our readers of things you may find interesting, recently I came across the website, sharecare, by Dr. Oz.  Perhaps you are already aware of it.

I was actually Googling something and when I saw this as one of the results, I checked it out.  A few months ago, I had heard it referenced and of course, who wouldn’t want to check out Dr. Oz’s website.

The thing I found most interesting is that the answers to your query are answered on his site by other experts from many different respected organizations.  For instance, the question I was checking on had answers from Dr. Oz (of course), someone from Johns Hopkins, someone from The American Red Cross, an expert from New York Presbyterian Hospital, and a number of others.

If you have read this blog for a while, you may be aware that I am so very thrilled to have all of this technology available to us.  How wonderful to have a reference to start to look for answers.  However, if you are a doctor, please don’t think I am encouraging people to go to the Internet for answers and not their doctor.  I am not.

However, the Internet is a wonderful place to start and become a bit educated.  Some say the Internet has information that has not been checked for accuracy.  I believe this is correct, but as with anything, do your homework.  Read lots of answers from a number of sources and then make a final decision as to what you will believe.  And then maybe a call to the doctor would be in order!

Let me know if the sharecare website is helpful.  Thanks.

Other Shoes

We’ve probably all heard the expression, ‘Put yourself in the other person’s shoes‘.  Well, how easy is that to do?  Have you ever been successful at doing that?

Years ago, while taking The Dale Carnegie Course, I read his book, How to Win Friends and Influence People. His premise is that the other person in any kind of exchange, is thinking from their position.  Therefore, to win them over, you need to put yourself in their shoes.

Most importantly, remember and say the person’s name.  Ask lots of questions to get the other person to talk about himself.  Keep asking and listening.  The other person will think you are a wonderful conversationalist.  They will think well of you for paying attention to them.

Many years ago, around the time I was taking this course,  I was in a business-social, black tie situation with executive level people.  I engaged my newly-learned skill and was utterly amazed at the response when I immersed myself in learning about them.  These people were extremely responsive and receptive to the attention and I felt totally empowered.

The concept of putting yourself in the other’s shoes, is the highest compliment you can give someone.  It means that you are interested.

This is actually a reminder to myself to remember to do this more often.  With family, with friends, with business acquaintances, in networking situations (ahhh…  networking situations–we really need to do this here).

How about you?  Have you ever done this?  How did it go?

If you have never tried this, perhaps it’s time to give it a try and let us know how it works.

Have fun with this and enjoy the experience.  I believe you will do this often once you are comfortable with the process.  Let us know.

 

Worry

Worry is an interesting word.  Many profound things have been written on the topic of worry.

Some people worry about most things.  How about you?  Would you say that you are a worrier?

It seems that the people I’ve met whom I would consider to be ‘worriers’ haven’t gotten the message that worrying about something is not a productive use of time.  Worry does not change the outcome to anything.  And think about the stress it leaves in its path.

Recently I had a situation that came up.  This had to do with a yearly routine, preventive medical test women endure every twelve months.  I had that procedure towards the end of May.  My doctor called to tell me I had to go back and have a more in depth look at something, and at the same time indicated this is probably nothing.  Would you agree that nothing is nothing when it concerns us?

When I called to set the follow up appointment, they were not able to fit me in until I returned from my scheduled nine day trip to Maui.  Yikes, I had wanted to do it before.

So, as I saw it, I had two choices:  to disasterize over the possible test results when I returned, or minimize the thought of it.  I chose the latter.  And am I happy I did.  The results were negative!  Totally!

When I called my husband on the way home, my comment after I gave him the good news was that I was so happy that I had not spent time worrying about this on our trip.  I honestly had not.

My next comment was how fortunate I felt, having gotten this good news and thinking that a percentage of the women in that waiting room were not as fortunate as I.

Worry is not a good thing any way you look at it.  It serves no good purpose, no matter what you are worrying about.  It cannot change anything and I personally feel it can be detrimental to our health.

What are your thoughts on worry?  Let us hear from you.

It’s All Relative

This was written in the early days of Sixty Something Now.  As I read it just now, I still find it rather humorous.  Well, maybe it’s just my humor.  What do you think?

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Sometimes I wonder why these amusing thoughts pop into my head.  Recently I was thinking of what I would write for a blog post, and something occurred to me.  When I’m in a conversation and it may involve my Mother, for instance, I explain… She’s no longer older.  She is old.  I am older.

My Mother turned 97 years old in November 2009.  I don’t feel it is insulting in any way to say she is old.  So where does that leave someone in my age demographic.  Well I would say that people would refer to us as older.

The amusing part of this that struck me earlier is that when we do comparisons using a word like old, to describe other things, it’s kind of the opposite.  Old used this way to compare something like a date on a loaf of bread, means it is not as old as older, meaning that the older bread is more stale or moldy than the old bread.  You know… old, older, oldest.

Now this is not earth-shattering stuff, but just a little thought I had.  Thought it may bring a chuckle to your day.  Any thoughts you’d like to share?  Feel free to comment.

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Oh, on a side bar note, my Mother will be turning 100 years old in November.  Wow!  That is OLD!  My Mother would definitely agree.

Sole Survivor

Have you heard of the upcoming movie called, Sole Survivor?  It’s due to be released in August.  I recently became aware of it and thought you might be interested in this short video about the movie.

Every so often we hear of a crash with one sole survivor.  Can you imagine how you would feel to be that person?  Well, according to this movie, no one can unless you’ve been through it.  And without a doubt, we don’t want to find out.

One of these fourteen people, Cecilia Chichan, is the sole survivor of the Northwest Airlines Flight 255 crash at Detroit Metro Airport in 1987.  It happened within seconds or minutes of take-off.  The pilot never adjusted the flaps on the wings to the direction needed to be for take-off.  Hence the plane couldn’t get the ‘lift’ it needed to get airborne.

Since hearing that in 1987 and probably because this was pretty close to home, when I fly I always check the flaps if I am within view of them as we are taking off and landing.  Perhaps that is a bit of false comfort, since I probably would not know what to say and probably couldn’t say it fast enough to make a difference.

Enough of that.  I would imagine the pilots today follow a specific checklist to avoid this type of thing and so much more.  Quite frankly, I just relax and enjoy the flight, especially since that part is out of my hands.