Category Archives: Personal Development

Personal Development

Gratitude

Here is a video on gratitude.  This topic can fall under so many categories.  Here, it is about expressing our thanks to someone for a deed or deeds that they have done for us.

I thought this was fitting today, since yesterday was the 4th of July and part of this shows people being grateful for what soldiers do everyday for us, to keep us safe.

This video was made by The Gratitude Campaign.  It’s been around for a while.  Still great!

What and who are you grateful for?

Other Shoes

We’ve probably all heard the expression, ‘Put yourself in the other person’s shoes‘.  Well, how easy is that to do?  Have you ever been successful at doing that?

Years ago, while taking The Dale Carnegie Course, I read his book, How to Win Friends and Influence People. His premise is that the other person in any kind of exchange, is thinking from their position.  Therefore, to win them over, you need to put yourself in their shoes.

Most importantly, remember and say the person’s name.  Ask lots of questions to get the other person to talk about himself.  Keep asking and listening.  The other person will think you are a wonderful conversationalist.  They will think well of you for paying attention to them.

Many years ago, around the time I was taking this course,  I was in a business-social, black tie situation with executive level people.  I engaged my newly-learned skill and was utterly amazed at the response when I immersed myself in learning about them.  These people were extremely responsive and receptive to the attention and I felt totally empowered.

The concept of putting yourself in the other’s shoes, is the highest compliment you can give someone.  It means that you are interested.

This is actually a reminder to myself to remember to do this more often.  With family, with friends, with business acquaintances, in networking situations (ahhh…  networking situations–we really need to do this here).

How about you?  Have you ever done this?  How did it go?

If you have never tried this, perhaps it’s time to give it a try and let us know how it works.

Have fun with this and enjoy the experience.  I believe you will do this often once you are comfortable with the process.  Let us know.

 

Worry

Worry is an interesting word.  Many profound things have been written on the topic of worry.

Some people worry about most things.  How about you?  Would you say that you are a worrier?

It seems that the people I’ve met whom I would consider to be ‘worriers’ haven’t gotten the message that worrying about something is not a productive use of time.  Worry does not change the outcome to anything.  And think about the stress it leaves in its path.

Recently I had a situation that came up.  This had to do with a yearly routine, preventive medical test women endure every twelve months.  I had that procedure towards the end of May.  My doctor called to tell me I had to go back and have a more in depth look at something, and at the same time indicated this is probably nothing.  Would you agree that nothing is nothing when it concerns us?

When I called to set the follow up appointment, they were not able to fit me in until I returned from my scheduled nine day trip to Maui.  Yikes, I had wanted to do it before.

So, as I saw it, I had two choices:  to disasterize over the possible test results when I returned, or minimize the thought of it.  I chose the latter.  And am I happy I did.  The results were negative!  Totally!

When I called my husband on the way home, my comment after I gave him the good news was that I was so happy that I had not spent time worrying about this on our trip.  I honestly had not.

My next comment was how fortunate I felt, having gotten this good news and thinking that a percentage of the women in that waiting room were not as fortunate as I.

Worry is not a good thing any way you look at it.  It serves no good purpose, no matter what you are worrying about.  It cannot change anything and I personally feel it can be detrimental to our health.

What are your thoughts on worry?  Let us hear from you.

Nice

The word nice is an interesting word.  It is a relative word and really needs to be used in context to something else.  That’s actually implied in most cases.

This is a post I wrote within the past year and felt it was worth reposting.

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Are you a nice person?  This sounds like a rather odd question because it’s a rhetorical question, right?  After all, don’t we all think we are all nice people?

So, what’s my point here?  My point here is that it is difficult to deal with people whom we construe as not very nice.  So how do you deal with people in business who are like this?  What about people you deal with on a personal level?

I’ve found that for me the best thing is to have as little contact with these people as possible.  When I have no choice and need to be around them, I find the best thing is to fortify myself with self-talk about how I have no control over the person, while looking forward to getting through the duration of the contact.

What do you do about this type of people?  How do you handle the situations and interactions with them?

We’d really like to know about some things that have worked for you.

Inspire Others

Another segment of the interview with Erik Michielsen of Capture Your Flag and Simon Sinek, author of Start With Why, and what a fundamental concept.  How to inspire others to do what inspires them?

It sounds so logical, and so right on.  Are you one who inspires others to do what inspires them?

Let us know of your experiences with this.  You know, perhaps a family member, a friend, a spouse.  Would love to hear about your story.

Importance of Focus

Focus is important in anything we want to do well.  That goes for everything.  Whether it is our career, our job, a mundane task, a financial goal…  Well, you get the picture.  How can we get accomplished what we are aiming at if we are not focused?

And when we do focus, wouldn’t you agree that it feels great when that achievement is reached?

In this video, the amusing story-line shows Bill Pennington (who is actually a writer for the NY Times), giving a player a few lessons.  I believe this pertains to anything in life.

After you view it, let me know what you think.  By the way, just thought I’d throw in a golf video to get us warmed up for US Open weekend.

Why Is Our Past Relevant?

In Simon Sinek’s book, Start With Why, he describes why our past is relevant to why we do what we do.

View this short video, an interview with Erik Michielsen of Capture Your Flag, to hear him explain it.

I find it interesting how some people can say so much in so few words.  What do you think of this?

Everything Affects Everything Else

Jim Rohn was so prolific and the world was so fortunate to have had him share his insights for the number of years he did.

Jim Rohn was one of the world’s finest business philosophers. He was extremely knowledgeable in the concepts of personal development among his peers in personal development and speaking.

Jim Rohn could make for of an impact in two minutes than many orators do in fifteen.  Powerful!

Jobs’ View About The Secrets of Life

This is another fascinating, short video interview with Steve Jobs, done by the Santa Clara Valley Historical Association.

It’s short and succinct and worth checking out.

This was made in 1995 while Steve Jobs was at NeXT Computers.

Because this is relevant to what he learned and decided as a young person, perhaps there is a young person in your life who may benefit from viewing it as well.