Category Archives: Personal Development

Personal Development

Thought Conrol

Thought control sounds like a bit of a scarey term.  Like mind-control.

O.K.  I’m not talking about some awful control program to take over our thoughts.  I’m referring to the fact that we have control over our thoughts.  We have total control.

Perhaps this is a new concept to you or perhaps not.  In any case, this is totally true.  And I would believe on some level we all know this to be true.

So, how do you control your thoughts?  And why would you want to?

My belief is that our thoughts are the steering wheel of our life.  We get to think about anything and everything.  Yes, we get to decide what thoughts we will think.  We control our thoughts.

And our thoughts are creating our life.  Our thoughts are being manifested in what we do on a daily basis.

What are you achieving?  What are you accomplishing?  Or are you not accomplishing anything?

We all get to decide.  And if you read yesterday’s post about button-pushers, know that we get to control who pushes our buttons.

Think about that!  We get to decide who can push our buttons.

Our thoughts are the steering wheel of our life.  Do we want to go around allowing our buttons to be pushed?  If not, then control your thoughts and be in charge.


Button Pushers

How do you deal with someone who pushes your buttons?  You know, can make you do a 180 on the great mood you may have been experiencing at any given time.  How do you react?  How do you respond?

Wouldn’t you agree that in our lives, we meet people of all types.  Some like/love us no matter what we do or say.  And some do not like us no matter what we do or say.  And some just know how to push our buttons and make us miserable!!!

So, I ask again…  How do you deal with that person, or those people?

Have you ever listened to someone describe in very emotional terms a blow-by-blow account of a situation that has made this person extremely emotional and somewhat distraught.  At a loss to know what to do to handle it, and therefore tells everyone they come into contact with.

Have you ever noticed that when you are listening to someone’s tale of woe that it may not have the same impact on you.  You may hear a recount of a long, involved story and as you are listening, you are dissecting it and realizing that you think it’s not quite as severe as the victim has indicated.

Is it not so bad because it’s not our challenge, personally.  Perhaps we should keep in mind that when we have something like this happen to us, we should take a step back and decide just how really awful it is…  Or maybe not awful at all!

Just a thought…  The more we talk about bad stuff, the longer the bad stuff lingers…  Hmmm!!!

So who can push your buttons?  And why do you let them?

Elements Of Motivation

This appeared earlier this year.  This is always a timeless topic.  Thought you’d like it.


What are the elements of motivation?  This video appears to have been produced for employees in the work place.  I believe this is relevant to every one of us, no matter the age or demographic.  This is about how to be the best person we can be.

Elements of Greatness:  Why be the best when you can be Great?  Potential, Vision, Belief, Desire, Courage (place your dreams above your fears), Perseverance, Execution, Passion.

We all have the ability to be Great!  What are your thoughts?



Integrity:  Adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.  This is according to website.

Do you live your life with integrity?  Would you say that others believe you live your life with integrity?

We certainly can’t control what anyone else thinks, so it doesn’t make sense to care about it.

Have you ever heard someone talk about themselves as though they have great integrity, and you get the distinct feeling that perhaps they don’t understand the real essence of the word.

Would you agree that one part of integrity is doing what you said you were going to do?  You know like keeping your word.  Following through.  Someone covers for you in some way and you indicate you will reciprocate in a certain time frame.  You do not.  No reason given. You just don’t.

Are you out of integrity?  I believe so.  Will this create a lack of trust in the future?  Of course.

How do you feel about the word integrity?  Does it describe you?  Do you strive to live with integrity?


It’s A Law!

The Law of Attraction has been the subject of many discussions, books, movies and interviews over the past number of years.  It became intensified around 2006 or so when The Secret, a movie and book by Rhonda Byrne came out.

Today I attended a networking event where the guest speaker explained this to the attendees.  It reminded me that I haven’t consciously thought about these things in quite a while.  I know it works.  It’s a law, just like the law of gravity is a law.  Whether we understand it or not, believe it or not, it is what it is.

Here is a video about it with beautiful pictures, phrases and music.  Perhaps you would benefit from viewing this for a few minutes.

How has the law of attraction worked for or against you?

Yes, it certainly can work against us if we allow it to.  Be careful what you think and say!

What Do You Do?

What do you do when someone in a conversation or group setting, says or does something that offends you?  How do you feel about it?  How do you react?  Does it ruin your mood?  How long do you let it bother you?

Recently a friend and I were talking about these things and she gave me an interesting perspective on this.  She said that she has learned to remain in control and not allow this type of behavior by someone else, to change the way she’s feeling.  She stays in control of her emotions.  She has learned to stay in charge of her life and determine what will influence it.

It was fascinating to hear her describe that she truly is at peace knowing that she is in control of her thoughts and emotions.  In speaking with her, I learned that this way of thinking goes way beyond the mere act of ‘talking to yourself to help you get through a bad situation‘.  It means knowing you are in charge of what you allow to affect you.

My friend has come through a significant experience that was the catalyst for the evolution of this personal skill of hers.  I found it fascinating to listen to her talk about this.  I also appreciated hearing about this way of operating her life.  Personally for me, there have been times when I do the ‘talk to myself…’routine.  I’m excited to hear about this way of thinking and reacting or not reacting.

Learning a better way to respond (or not respond) in this type of situation has been helpful for me.  What about you?  What do you do in these situations?


Stephen Covey on Choosing Success

Stephen Covey, the author of The Seven Habits of Very Effective People, passed away on July 16th.  Apparently his death was caused by an biking accident back in April, in which Covey fell off his bike due to some rough terrain.  He was wearing a helmet, but still he suffered a severe head injury.

Covey wrote the Seven Habits book, which sold more than 20 million copies.  He authored two other books as well.  He will be missed by many around the world.  He was well-respected in the business community for his work surrounding these books.

Here is an interview with Stephen Covey from a few years back, discussing a facet of success and Habit #1:  Be Proactive.

Personally I have not read the Seven Habits book.  I believe I bought it and started on it, but did not finish it.  How about you?  Have you read any of his books?  What did Stephen Covey mean to you?

Life and Stuff

Recently I’ve been thinking about some stuff.  You know, just life stuff.  Like things that happen that can throw us off a bit.

How do you handle those times.  Times when you have been going along (minding your own business… love that old expression) and then ZAP!  Out of the blue, it seems, things take a 180 degree turn.

Yikes!  What’s that about?

Isn’t it amazing how that happens!  Why does it happen?  Well, who knows?  As the business philosopher Jim Rohn would say…  ‘Don’t take that class!’

More importantly, is how do you handle those times?  What can you draw on within that allows you to get through it?  Wouldn’t you agree that we all need something, some way to deal with those times?

For me, I believe we are served best by reading good material that can give us insight on life and aspects of it.  How to deal with the negative things that come up.  How to get through it and beyond it.  We need to understand that there is an ebb and flow of life…  Good times and bad.  Remember that it will turn around and get better.

Recently I read a post from a Facebook ‘friend’ and he mentioned an analogy of the bad road conditions in some part of the Detroit area he had driven through earlier that day.  He said that if you don’t go through the bad conditions you won’t appreciate the good ones.  Pretty profound!  Great analogy!  Thanks Terry Bean.

What about you?  Have you been through any bad conditions lately?  Maybe during those times, remember the good conditions and appreciate them when they return.

Hmmm!!!  Any power outages lately?  How long after you were restored did your gratitude last for having it back?

Project: Forgive

Project:  Forgive, as you might have figured out, is about forgiveness.  On a huge scale.  Are  you aware of it?  Have you heard of it?

This was inspired by a tragic accident in 2005, in which a West Bloomfield, Michigan jeweler lost his wife and two sons due to a drunk driver.  How would you live after that?  How could you continue to go to sleep each night and wake up in the morning?

This video was released a few months ago by Shawne Duperon, a local Michigan business coach.  In an ironic twist she knew Gary Wienstein and his family and she also personally knew Tom Wellinger, the man who was driving drunk and killed them.  It is because of this, that she has created this video and movement.

This is about five minutes long, which is a bit longer than most videos I post, but this is something you may want to check out.  At the end, there is a request for anyone to send in their own story of forgiveness for the larger project Shawne is creating.  There is also a request for funds to be donated.  Know that I am not necessarily endorsing this project, only giving you information.  The request for donations is part of the video.

Perhaps you would like to read the Detroit Free Press article from a few months ago for the full story.

How do you feel about forgiveness?  Can you forgive someone who has wronged you in some way?  Back at the end of December I wrote a couple of posts about forgiveness, unrelated to this story.  I believe in it strongly.  That being said, I’ve never had to deal with it to this extent.