Category Archives: Enjoying Life after 60

Posts about enjoying life on a daily basis.

How’s Your Mindset?

How’s your mindset about the age you are right now?  What about the future? Do you think about aging and all the bad press it’s received?

Would you agree that there is a lot of information out there about aging and the assumptions of normal aging, or should I say… what people think is normal?

It seems that most people feel that there are many factors beyond our control.  I would agree that some factors are beyond our control, but there are so many more that are within our control.

O.K.  Let’s face it… lines and wrinkles on our face are going to happen.  That’s beyond our control to a certain extent.  Certainly lots of products have been developed within the past few decades that help that, but no matter what miracle, anti-aging product you buy, it’s not going to produce a twenty-something year old-looking face.  And probably not even a forty-someting face.  Maybe just a better sixty-something face!

One thing I’ve learned that is within our control, is how we keep moving.  You know, exercise.  In high school, I remember disliking the very concept of exercise, but over the past number of years I’ve realized how important it is.  And since being introduced to the Younger Next Year books, by Chris Crowley and Henry Lodge, MD. it’s enhanced my understanding of the real benefits of exercising.  We can be younger next year on the inside with the amount of exercise and weight work they advocate.

How’s your mindset about all of this?  Hopefully you have a positive mindset because it’s so very important.  It’s probably one of the most important factors of aging.  Aging successfully.  And isn’t that what it’s all about?

What’s Ahead?

Over this past weekend, I finished reading for the second time, Younger Next Time for Women, by Chris Crowley and Henry Lodge, MD.  Reading a good book entirely to the end is bitter sweet, wouldn’t you agree?  While you’re reading it you are anxious to read and discover what’s next.  When you’re done, you miss the characters with whom you’ve become familiar.

That’s how I’m feeling now, even though this is my second time around with this book.  What I have found profound in this book, are the various bits and pieces at the end where each author kind of further analyzes things they wrote about in certain chapters.  Then each has a kind of summary at the end.  If you have read this book, you know that Chris Crowley is about mid 70’s now and a former attorney, and Henry (Harry) Lodge is the doctor with all of the scientific information.

Chris writes about how it is after you stop working.  Because he was an attorney in a New York law firm, he had the structure of going to work, being there and then going home in the evening.  He found it a bit difficult to adjust to not having that routine.  He writes that it’s not hard, just unfamiliar, which reads as hard.  He indicates that Harry uses a metaphore about how the paths for the young are marked with huge, legible signs:  Go to college; Take this exit to work for Proctor & Gamble; Stop off to have a child; Stay home; or Become a cog in the American economy.

Using this metaphore, the paths after sixty are back roads or country lanes, with no signs to tell you where to go.  Or who to be.  No role models.  No norms of behavior and not support organizations.

Chris observes that in time, if you do it somewhere near right, you’ll come to appreciate the beauty of the back roads, their comparative calm.  And the fact that you have so many options to do whatever you want.  As with any meandering road, it’s less a matter of getting someplace and more a matter of enjoying the trip.

Not the destination but a journey!

Your thoughts?

What Is Your Path?

What has your life’s path been?  This is not as rhetorical a question as it may seem.

By this time of your life, I’m sure that more than once you said to yourself, if not someone close to you… “Wow, where did all the time go?  How could so many years have gone by so quickly?”

Recently I attended a milestone event with my husband at his college.  It was to honor the 50th Anniversary of the Men’s Basketball championship team of 1962.  My husband was a sophomore that year and a member of the team.

This is a Division III school with a current enrollment of 1400 students; about 900 students 50 years ago.  There were four players and their spouses and two cheerleaders in attendance from that year.  This was Alumni weekend, so there were many other alumni attending the various events.

An interesting mix of people, these fellow teammates were.  Lots of memories shared.  Having gone to a similar type school, it so had a familiar, actually family feeling to it.

Personally I had an interesting conversation with one of the wives.  She is a few years older than I and a retired attorney.  I found it fascinating that she had been an attorney for many years.  When I was growing up and contemplating college, the messages I was getting, included, but not limited to:

Go to college to find an educated husband–get the B.S. then the Mrs.

Become a teacher, then you can have your summers off, and take time off to raise the kids and go back to teaching–and have the same hours as the kids.

This has prompted me to reflect on my life’s path and the concept in general.  We’ve all been influenced by those around us at a young age.  Good, bad or somewhere in between, while growing up, we are susceptible to what people tell us either by their actions or their words.

Think about your life’s path to date.  Where are you.  Where would you like to have been?  Better yet, where do you want to go now?

Personally, I have given much thought to these concepts.  I keep wanting to learn stuff.  New stuff. Maybe I’m looking to take my life’s path in new directions.  I believe this blog is one. Maybe there are some others out there as well.

What about you?  Let me hear from you.

 

 

Care, Commit, Connect

Recently I wrote about two of Harry’s Rules, from Younger Next Year and Younger Next Year for Women, by Chris Crowley and Henry Lodge, MD.  Care and Commit & Connect.

This video captures the essence of these concepts.  This video is actually under three minutes and towards the end, it mentions the benefits to the individuals of volunteering, which is caring, committing and connecting wrapped into one neat package.

What do you think of this concept?  Is volunteering on your calendar on a regular basis?  We’d enjoy hearing about it and how it benefits you.

P.S.  Oops!!!  I’ve broken my own self-imposed rule here by showing a video with the ‘S_____’ word all through it.  However, I have not written it here.  I feel the benefits of posting this out-weigh the negatives of you seeing the ‘S’ word.

Perhaps you know someone you want to pass this along to.  Feel free to do so.

Harry’s Rules

Over the past year, I’ve written about Younger Next Year and Younger Next Year For Women by Chris Crowley and Henry Lodge, MD.  I am almost finished reading the ‘women’s version’ for the second time.

Contained in the book are Harry’s Rules, which are seven simplistic statements by which to live in the last third of our lives.

His last two rules I’ve paraphrased below.

Care:   Be interested enough to get up every day and give it a shot… do new stuff, do old stuff… keep on going when you wouldn’t mind sitting down for a while.  Care enough about exercise and nutrition so that you have a decent body and a good attitude going into the next third.  That’s important.  But that’s only part of it.  With exercise you have given yourself a fine way to get around.  Now you must get out and about.  Once you’ve taken charge of your body, now take charge of your life.  We can’t just be dormant and sit around.  And when you think to yourself, who cares?  Who cares if I get up and exercise today?  Or eat a vast tub of popcorn?  Or work on that project I’ve been so excited about?  Really, who cares?  The answer better be ‘I care!’.  Or you’re done!

Connect and Commit:  Rededicate yourself to family, friends and companions.  Get involved in groups and do communal things, whether work or play.  If we don’t exercise our social skills, if we let ourselves become cut off and increasingly solitary as we age, we will become ill and die — according to Dr. Lodge.  Hundreds of studies have demonstrated this point.  Caring at every level is one of the most important things you can do in the next third of your life.

These books have powerful messages for us all.  Perhaps you will get one or both of them and share your thoughts with me.

What Are You Eating?

Over the years of our lives, haven’t we all heard that we need to eat well?  We’ve all heard about the food pyramid suggested by our FDA.  Well, actually, the food pyramid suggested by our all-knowing Food and Drug Administration has dramatically changed, even in the last twenty years.  So, what’s that about?

What are you eating?  Are you eating well?  Are  you wondering what eating well means?

If so, I would ask you, what are you paying attention to?  What are you reading and what are you watching?  If you are paying any attention at all to anything except television commercials, you would know some basics about how to eat.

In the late 70’s I met a friend who set me on a path to eating with as few preservatives as possible.  I learned what to look for as I read labels.  I made a concerted effort to not buy anything with ingredients containing three or more syllables.

So, many years later, I realize what a serendipitous meeting that was.  I started on a path of ‘all-natural’, which at the time was the new term.  I embarked on a mission to create only healthy meals, no processed foods, no box-mixes, no products with preservatives.  And as the years have progressed, I’ve pretty much stayed with that as the way I buy food when I shop.  It has served me well.

Over the past few years, I’ve known people representing a company who have a machine that measures how healthy you are.  I will use that term, for lack of the real, official description of how this machine works and what it measures.  Originally in 2005 and then again in the fall of 2011, my levels were measured on this machine.  Without really understanding it, I measured off the chartsGood, off the charts!  I’m not sure of the first time results, but this time, I was way above the ‘wow’ level.  I was asked what I’m eating to create such a great result.

What are you eating?  I often write about the Slight Edge concept, and actually, wouldn’t you agree that what we choose to eat is all about slight edge and what kind of results we see down the road?  If you are reading this and having an ‘ahaa’ moment, please know that we can start at any time to eat well…  Just do it! (As Nike would advocate!)

 

Entitled To Savings

One of the fun benefits to being on the other side of sixty, is that we are entitled to savings on things.  We get discounts just by being our age.  My husband will never ask for the ‘senior discount’ because he feels that this should be only for people on a ‘fixed income’, not for people still working.

Well, I feel differently.  Have you ever seen a sign that stated the discount is only for people who are over a certain age and no longer working?  I don’t think so!

Recently I found this from The Senior Citizen Journal and thought I’d pass it along here:

Seniors Save with Internet Resources

There are a variety of Internet websites that offer assistance to senior citizens looking to make their retirement dollars stretch as far as possible.  SCJ did a search this week for sites that offer coupons targeted to senior citizens.  Here’s what we found:

  • A full products and services directory offered by AARP for offers and discounts related to health and welfare, discounts, travel and financial needs;
  • ShopAtHome.com offering free online coupons, grocery coupons, cash back rewards, free samples, restaurant coupons and contests.  This site boasts it is unique from other sites because it gives cash back to shoppers for purchases made through the online shopping cart;
  • free-stuff daily.com is a funky site that provides a daily email if you subscribe; the email contains all sorts of free stuff that is available online; clicking on the links in the email gets you to the pages you want to review for deals and coupons;
  • TheFreeDeal.com has coupons and deals galore, in a one-stop-shopping venue.  As with other sites cited, the focus is on what is free.
  • AbsolutelyFreebies.com not only offers coupons, but there is also information about contests and sweepstakes on this site.  You will find everything free here.

Here is where I need to apologize for using a couple of terms I had indicated, when I started Sixty Something Now, that I would never use.  And for that I am sorry.  The reason I’ve used them here, is that I’m quoting an article and a publication.  And there is some really useful information and websites you may get great value from knowing about.

How do you feel about accepting the discount if you are still working and not on a fixed income?  Would love to hear your comments.

Holidays Gone!

Well, the holidays are gone…done!  For another year, all the festivities, parties, decorations, seeing extended family and all of it, are over.

How do you feel about that?  How were your holidays?  Were you totally stressed?  Were you pretty relaxed?  Did you go away and spend time on a vacation away from family and perhaps tradition?

Saturday this weekend I finally got all the ‘stuff’ down and all of it put away.  Lots of time spent decorating and then taking it down.  Personally, I love seeing the tree with the various ornaments and the white lights all lit up.  And every year, I use ribbon to kind of wrap the tree.  It looked beautiful!

By now we all have a collection of Christmas decorations, I’m sure.  If you are like I am, when the time comes to put up the stuff, your main thought is, ‘what goes up, must come down’…  Hmmm!

This year I decided that it is wonderful to have the house decorated for Christmas, and it’s o.k. not to put out every single thing I have ever collected in my decorations collection.  It’s not even about, ‘who’s going to see it, unless we entertain?’.  For me it’s about, I enjoy seeing the house look like Christmas, and it’s o.k. that some stuff stays in the basement in their containers and never gets put up.  It’s really o.k.  We entertained family and the house looked great.

One thing I experienced, as I sorted through what to put up or not and then as I took it all down, was remembering each item and it’s history.  Most of the stuff, I’d collected years ago.

Then there’s the things I’ve acquired since I’m in this current relationship/marriage.  A number of things acquired as gifts/favors at business parties or ornaments I’ve bought while traveling.  However, the most memorable for me now, are ornaments given me from the grandchildren I’ve acquired in this marriage.  Touching and very special.

What about you?  Let us hear about your thoughts about the holidays.

Do You Set Goals Or Resolutions?

You could interpret the title of this blog to mean either/or–goals or resolutions for the new year.  Or you could interpret it to mean any kind of goals or resolutions at all.

Recently I sat down to create my goals for 2012.  Personally, I set goals not resolutions.  It seems like ‘New Year’s resolutions’ are things people think about now and forget about by the end of January.

While Googling the topic of 2012 Goals, I came across this interesting site that I wanted to share.  One of the bloggers, ‘pinkytoe’, had a comment that fits in here.  She gives a kind of formula to what to contemplate when you sit down to create your goals for the year.  She recommends sitting quietly to create your list.  I thought it was worth noting here:

How have I spent my time in the last year?
What has inspired me this past year?
What are the results of the actions that I HAVE taken?
What blessings have I received?
What were my disappointments and how did they change me? Ditto with accomplishments and joys.
What books have I read and how have they changed me?
What conditional patterns have I recognized and what allowed me to see them more clearly?
Looking back can help with future goals I am hoping.

In an article from the Detroit Free Press on January 1st on goal-setting, Steve Siebold has this quote about going after your goals:  ‘Starve your fear, feed your vision’.  This was in context of how people sometimes hesitate to set big goals.  Fear is a common element here.  So, when he indicates we need to starve the fear, what a great visual.  Of course, I prefer the positive–feed your vision!  Wow!  Powerful!

So what about you?  Have you set goals for 2012?  And remember, goals are categorized.  They can be financial, health, family, physical-fitness, etc.

Anything you wish to share with us about your goals?