What do you do when someone in a conversation or group setting, says or does something that offends you? How do you feel about it? How do you react? Does it ruin your mood? How long do you let it bother you?
Recently a friend and I were talking about these things and she gave me an interesting perspective on this. She said that she has learned to remain in control and not allow this type of behavior by someone else, to change the way she’s feeling. She stays in control of her emotions. She has learned to stay in charge of her life and determine what will influence it.
It was fascinating to hear her describe that she truly is at peace knowing that she is in control of her thoughts and emotions. In speaking with her, I learned that this way of thinking goes way beyond the mere act of ‘talking to yourself to help you get through a bad situation‘. It means knowing you are in charge of what you allow to affect you.
My friend has come through a significant experience that was the catalyst for the evolution of this personal skill of hers. I found it fascinating to listen to her talk about this. I also appreciated hearing about this way of operating her life. Personally for me, there have been times when I do the ‘talk to myself…’routine. I’m excited to hear about this way of thinking and reacting or not reacting.
Learning a better way to respond (or not respond) in this type of situation has been helpful for me. What about you? What do you do in these situations?