Do you operate with integrity? Interesting question isn’t it.
The irony of this question is that perhaps everyone believes they operate with integrity. I believe they do. After all, wouldn’t you agree it’s like the expression about ‘beauty’ being in the eye of the beholder.
Can there be a definition of integrity into which each person couldn’t see themselves fitting? Let’s face it. I don’t believe anyone would say they don’t operate with integrity or they don’t have integrity.
Now, have you ever had dealings with an individual that you feel operated in a way that clearly indicated they lack integrity? Not a pleasant experience.
Recently I’ve had business dealings with someone who clearly lacked what I would consider good moral fiber and any inkling of integrity. Actually I experienced a temporary negative feeling throughout my body after the interaction, which had made me realize this was not a relationship I wanted to continue.
The interesting thing I noticed in this business situation, as the discussion continued, was that this person spoke as though they were coming from a place of integrity. Perfectly justifying their position and not understanding the issued I had with his reasoning.
Quite an experience and it takes me back to The Dale Carnegie class I had many, many years ago. Through the course, we read the book ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’, in which I believe was the story of when Dale Carnegie was seated next to John Dilenger at a dinner party and listened as Mr. Dilenger justified what a great human being he was. Now I’m paraphrasing and remembering from many years ago, but the essence is that everyone thinks they are a good person.
How do you deal with people that you feel lack integrity? How does interacting with them make you feel?