Monthly Archives: March 2010

Is Social Media A Fad?

Thought this was interesting about social media. What do you think? Is it a fad?

Is social media a fad?

Is It Easy?

“Don’t wish it were easier, wish you were better”, Jim Rohn.

What a great concept!  What do you wish were easier right now?  What are you doing that you need to get better at?  How can you do that?

Sometimes it seems that things are just not working out the way we think they should.  I’ve read and heard so much lately about people who have had challenges in their lives and came out on the other side and realized that they are better for having gone through the challenge.

What is your self-talk about any situation?  Are you encouraging yourself the way you would encourage a good friend or family member in a bad situation?

We all experience events in our lives that we can label as good or bad.  But those words are relative.  What is good?  What is bad?  It depends on how we think about situations that happen to us.  We get to decide how we will feel about those things.  One way to help us decide how to react to a situation is to read or listen to information about success and how others have succeeded in dealing with their situations.

So we just need to get better.  We need to get better at handling our life events.  Get better at dealing with the stuff that comes up.  If you think about it, not much of what we experience in life is easy, but we can get better at handling it.  It’s all in the way we decide to think about it.

How do you handle the things that happen to you?  How do you get better at it?

Powerful Words

Recently I was at a networking event.  I would imagine most people know what that means, but for those who don’t, it’s an event that is held for business people to meet each other for the purpose of meeting someone who may further their business, or whose business they could help.  The best outcome is a win-win for all who attend.

This event happened to have some short informational sessions which the attendees were free to go into a classroom and listen to experts in various fields imparting specific knowledge.  One of the speakers, Michael Angelo Caruso, talked about communication, but of specific interest were what he termed the fifteen most powerful words you can ever use with another person.

Those fifteen words are:

  • 5.  I am proud of you.
  • 4.  What is your opinion?
  • 3.  Will you please?
  • 2.  Thank you.
  • 1.  (Their) name.

Think of how easy it is to use these words and phrases.  How many times do you use them?  What are some situations you will experience today that you could use this information and see the reaction of the other person.  Interesting experiment and easy to implement.  Let me know if you do, how it worked.

By the way, the speaker referred to above is no where close to being 60, but his information certainly is worth mentioning here.

Are You a Follower or a Leader?

We’ve all heard this concept for years, probably starting when we were children.  In fact there was a game we played called follow the leader.

What does it take to be a leader?  Well, I know this, there are numerous courses and classes about leadership.  I would imagine that the word is a little over-used and probably some of those classes or courses may miss the mark.

In my recent reading I came across a concept that intrigued me.  If we are a follower, are the people we’re following going where we want to go?  Think about our children and grandchildren especially, since they are still forming and molding who they are.  Think of the young people in your life and whether they tend to follow or lead.

It’s not so much that everyone needs to be a leader, but everyone does need to know consciously where they want to go.  Think about packing up the car to take a road trip.  You get the people and items into the vehicle and turn on the engine.  But if you don’t know where you want to go, how do you know what direction to drive?  How do you know where you will end up?  Would this be a good plan for your life?

There are many people in our demographic who are learning some of these concepts later in life than what is available for young people to learn now.  But there is so much available to us that we can all decide to be leaders and take charge of where we are going.

Where do you want to go?  What do you want to do with your life?  Are you going to lead your own way to get there?

What Does It Take To Win?

Many years ago I bought The Psychology of Winning by Denis Waitley on cassette tape.  I found his concepts fascinating and his stories intriguing and memorable.

One of the stories I liked best was about two men camping in the mountains.  One morning they spotted a huge brown bear.  At that, one man took off running before he had time to even get his shoes on and looked back to see his friend carefully tying his shoe laces.  To his horror, he yelled to his friend to get going and run away from the bear.  At that the friend yelled, I just need to out-run you, not the bear.

There are numerous stories of this concept in real life every day.  Right now it’s March Madness when college basketball is so exciting.  Many of the games that have been and will be played will have outcomes of that slight difference in score that makes all the difference in who achieves the title as champions.

Last year at the Masters Golf Tournament, there were three players who tied with -12 after four days of play.  They did a play-off and after one hole, it was down to two players.  Then on the second hole, the winner was decided.  So, Angel Cabrera was awarded $1,350,000 for 1st place.  Kenny Perry was awarded $810,000 for 2nd place and Chad Campbell won $510,000 for 3rd place.

Now, we would all agree that even the $510,000 would be a great payday, but the point is to notice the difference of hundreds of thousands of dollars in winnings, for just one golf stroke difference after four days of play.

There are so many examples of this type of thing in our lives.  Every day we are faced with decisions to be made about what we want to do.  Think about it.  It’s not about the quantum leap it’s about the small steps we take every day that make such a huge difference in the outcome.

What do you need to do each day to move you to where you want to be with your project or whatever you are working on.  Let us know how things are going.

One More Step

“Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.”  Napole0n Hill wrote this in his classic Think and Grow Rich.

Have you read this important book?  If not, I would highly recommend it.  It was written many years ago and has been suggested as must-reading by every personal development expert I’ve ever heard.  Not only that, but some friends and associates of mine, as well as people I’ve met through networking have indicated they have gained insight from it.  And these are people who don’t necessarily know or care much about personal development.

What are you working on that perhaps you are feeling up against a wall about?  What project are you ready to quit because it is not going as well as you thought it might at this point?  Well, maybe it’s time to get back to it and see how you can get it done and complete the task or project.  Maybe it’s time to look at your project from another view.

A week or so ago, I wrote about Thomas Edison.  He had lots of inventions, but the light bulb was apparently a bit of a challenge.  Edison had a great outlook.  Apparently, he was being interviewed about the success that he finally had with it.  When asked about the 1,000 failures he had on his way to being successful, he replied that he had not had failure, only success in the 1,000 experiments to learn how not to make the light bulb.  Now that’s a mindset!

Napoleon Hill had some amazing concepts in Think and Grow Rich, but the concept of taking that one more step that may lead to your success just makes sense, especially today when we have so many things available to get done what we need to do.

What is that one more step you need to take?

Social Media Blues

Thought you would enjoy this video about social media.

Scott Rodgers Sings Social Media Blues

There may have been some words that you are unfamiliar with.   Actually, boing boing, fark, digg and flickr are all social media sites.  Obviously not as well know as Facebook and Twitter.

What is your experience with social media?  What sites are you signed up on?

21 Suggestions for Success

This past weekend I was at an event and the speakers shared the following information with the audience.  Of course they personalized it to their specific life experiences and to the audience being addressed.

It’s called 21 Suggestions for Success by H. Jackson Brown.  It’s worth checking out this site for this pretty fascinating list of great things to think about and follow.

The suggestions are powerful and just make good common-sense. My favorites were:

  • Work at something that is worthy of your time and talent and that you enjoy.
  • Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
  • Be persistent and consistent.
  • Commit yourself to personal development.
  • Be bold and courageous–when you look back on your life you will regret the things you didn’t do, more than the ones you did.  So have no regrets.
  • Don’t do anything that wouldn’t make your Mom proud.

Not only did I come away from the event on Saturday with some great nuggets, but now that I’ve checked out Jackson Brown, I realize he is he author of numerous books.

One of Jackson Brown’s books that stands out for me is Life’s Little Instruction Book, 511 Suggestions, Observations and Reminders on How to Live a Happy and Rewarding Life.  Back in the 60’s, I was given that book and enjoyed it.  It’s sort of a novelty type book and the kind of thing you would leave out and pick up at random times.  But lots of wisdom there.   He wrote it as his son was going off to college and it made it onto the NY Times best seller list for over two years.  Wow!  That’s a classic.

How Do You Feel About Your Age?

I’m sure you would agree that we all have feelings about our age.  The question is are your feelings about your age serving you in every way?  Have you ever given thought to what your self-talk is or has been about your age…at any age?

So here we are in our 60s and beyond.  Perhaps when you were younger you thought that 60 was pretty old.  Well, I would imagine you have re-thought that one!  And if not, then I would encourage you to do so, for your own benefit.

For me, I think I’ve had a fairly healthy mindset about age.  (I’m resisting using the word aging, which seemed appropriate here, but that is such an icky-sounding word! Hmmm! Now that’s telling about how I really think!)

When I was in my 30s, 40s and even into my 50s, I was doing aerobics pretty steadily anywhere from three to six days a week.  There was a woman in the class I attended for a number of years who was known to be in her mid to late 50s.  That was when I was in my late 30s and early 40s.  So we were thinking that was pretty old to do aerobics.  But she had been a dancer and was in really good shape.  My thought, was that she was my role model.  I would often think about her as I moved to various other locations over the years and continued to do aerobics and other ways of working out.

Around town whenever I would see an older woman, well put together–neatly and stylishly dressed, make-up and hair looking great, I would always consciously think, now there’s my role model.  And then there were the conversations I would have with a friend who was a couple years younger than I, about why some women seem to age well and others not so well.  We decided it was a little about genes and a lot about their thoughts about their age, whatever age it was.

Today, we hear so much about continuing to remain in good health as we age and that’s great.  I believe the mindset and our conscious and unconscious thoughts are a big piece of that as well and perhaps at the core of it all.

How do you feel about your age, any age you are now?  Here’s a way to think:  Live young a long time!